GroupDAG—How to Make Friends and Help People Make Friends
Or: Decentralized Social Technology for Scalable Community Building with
Self-Replicating Small-Group Cohort-Based Meetups
An often-cited problem in community building is how to make it scalable
without losing closeness and trust.
It’s the famous
Eternal September problem
where a once-cozy atmosphere where everybody knew each other suddenly devolves
into a crowd of strangers.
How do you keep things civil and friendly and help people get to know each
other without becoming yourself a bottleneck?
The answer, as to many things, is recursion.
Here is how a #groupdag works:
- You invite a group of people you know (3–6 including you) to meet weekly for
e.g. 8–12 weeks to share updates, learnings, difficulties, goals,
achievements (like a mastermind group), and to socialize around a common
- People take turns hosting the session so everyone gets experience in making
sure everyone gets heard and the conversation flows.
- Each person commits to inviting other people to join the group by talking to
people they know who share the group’s interest or by reaching out to those
- At the end of the cycle, the group “forks” into two, and the process repeats
- People in different groups with a common parent group stay in touch by
sharing a wider space in a chat or forum and possibly by having a bigger
monthly meetup with sibling groups.
- When the monthly meetup gets too big it can also fork, and so forth up the
tree into yearly conferences, etc.
- Groups who don’t grow enough to fork (people change interests, life
situations, etc.) can “merge” with others on the next cycle (hence
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Huyhn, and Kai Elmer Sotto, Stripe Press
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David Sloan Wilson, Evolution Institute
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Casper ter Kuile, Harper Collins
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Joel Comiskey, CCS Publishing